revenge body ? or the real you finding freedom.

The definition of Revenge Body is losing weight to get back at someone who has emotionally hurt you - especially an ex. But I think - the idea of a Revenge Body also has a more positive slant.

Good for Khloe Kardashian. Using, getting back at her ex for dumping her, by dumping her fat, then using her weight loss to her financial advantage, is a double whammy of sticking it to the bastard. That said, she was beautiful before she slimmed down, there's just less of her now. 

Losing weight after a breakup isn't new. The term 'Revenge Body' might be new, but the concept sure isn't. 

Women have been creating new looks for themselves after the breakup of a relationship, since the very idea of  having a relationship first became acceptable to society. 

Slimming down to your Revenge Body, is it really about getting back at someone who has wronged you? 

Ever considered the reason you were fat before the breakup, and thin after the a-hole dumped you? Maybe it was because you were unhappy with him as much as he was unhappy with you?

It's a good bet that you were comfort eating.  And you weren't the overweight, complacent, 'I've got my man so I don't have to worry', girl that he accused you of being?

If you were eating the fridge bare during the relationship, then ask yourself why was it you were scoffing tubs of Ben & Jerry's, and all the other fattening foods? Yeah? Think about it? Stands to reason you were comfort eating because you were miserable at being stuck in a going nowhere relationship with a useless son-of-a-bitch? 

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Now you are free from the male equivalent of a millstone no longer draped around your neck - could it be that the reason those ugly pounds of flesh have been falling off, has nothing to do with you wanting to show him what he's missing? And the truth is that the real you, is now - at long last - able to emerge from beneath the relationship you were buried under?

Think back on your relationship. Were you eating for two? And by two I don't mean  pregnant. I mean you ate what he wanted to eat?  

He wants to eat low cal diet food as much as you need a large glass of wine, thanks to his bitching of, 'I want steak and chips'.  

When you want -




You've worked hard all day, and the last thing you want to do is, A) cook or B) cook two separate meals. Whilst it is true there are men who cook, let's face it, the burden of producing meals still sits with the majority of women in most relationships. 

When a man says he'll do dinner, it often means he'll phone for a pizza. With this attitude from your unsupportive partner, the odds on a successful long-term diet aren't high. 

Together with the irritating fact, when it comes to staying thinner than us, men definitely have the unfair advantage. They have a slower metabolic rate. They don't get pregnant - all those cravings. Their bodies don't suffer from f*cked up hormones thanks to child birth. And then, (those who moan about a woman's weight gain), have the goddamn cheek to ignore their half of the responsibility in the destruction of their partner's, before sprog, shapely body. 

It didn't feature with the your departed ex, the reason you put on the weight was because he was in your life! 

How arrogant of any person who has hurt you, to assume the reason you have slimmed down after they have left, is a need to prove your worth to them. 

Only having to think about yourself, makes it a whole lot easier when it comes to looking and feeling good. The phrase - happy free and single - comes to mind. 

'I've lost all my excess weight to show him I'm wanted by another man.' Is, as far as I am concerned - in a word - sad. No pathetic. And totally unnecessary. 

You get in shape for no one's benefit, but your own. And you have nothing to prove, except the realisation that your life has taken on a free unencumbered existence. 

Even in today's so called enlightened 21st century, magazine articles about how to please your man by looking sexy are drearily trawled out on a depressingly regular basis. By sexy, the magazine writers mean - thin. Sure, statistically men do prefer dating slim women to fat ones - but all these articles do, is stroke already over inflated egos. 

When the waste of space who has done their best to destroy your emotional equilibrium has finally buggered off - what are you left with? A desire to get revenge? 

A Revenge Body, does not have to be just about getting back at you ex. The new shapelier you, can be a happy by-product to the end of an unhappy relationship. 

To my mind, that's exactly what it is. 

If facing the world as a singleton is daunting, then here's an article I wrote  sometime back, about the upside of being single -  

Alone doesnt need to mean lonely

Of course, it doesn't hurt to show the arrogant prick that without him, you have emerged from your chrysalis of misery, into a beautiful butterfly of happiness.